With BY MICHAEL OWHOKO
Ignorance is what drives the behaviour of the woman. If only she knows
her real worth and the premium placed on her by her husband, she would
not organise herself into an opposition in a home she is supposed to
play excellent and distinguished supportive role through her natural
position as help.
For posterity, I am pleased to unveil the real worth of the woman. For
me as a man, I see my wife as priceless and immeasurable platinum with
whom I am intertwined and inseparable till the fullness of time; and
except God, not even the children can undo us.
The woman is an enigma wrapped in a puzzle inside a conundrum. Even
the women are oblivious of the mystery behind their personality, thus,
out of ignorance, conjure up pitiable image of oppression under the
pinafore grip of the man. Rather than take their natural place, some
women are up in antagonism, insisting in clearly identifiable rights
with freedom of aspirations to high heavens like their men’s
counterparts. Unfortunately, this is a creation of the mind.
The woman is a mystery possessing inelastic allure capable of altering
equations, permutations and creating imbalance to existing operational
template with established structure and protocols. Her presence
commands an aura of authority and influence. Her composition and
physiology are unique, attracting attention even in the highest
profile of gathering with presence of eminent personalities.
Her power and authority are encapsulated in her tender, soft and
perceptive nature. Her appearance evokes respect and dignity with a
concomitant deep spiritual and extra-sensory organs, equipped to
foresee prosperity or dangers ahead, depending on the circumstances.
She sees and feels what the man is incapable of knowing, and advising
the man as appropriate.
Besides, her intuitive power is legendary; having the capacity for
intellectual judgement, and this places her above the man. With her
instinctual gift, she is spiritually sensitive and this informs her
spiritual commitment to things of celestial activities. Through this
power, she is able to separate the good and bad friends of her husband
and advise him of those that are potential capital or deficit. This
makes her judgement respectable in low and high places.
I recalled when I wanted to acquire a property; I invited my wife to
be the witness on the day the agreement was to be signed. The
underpinning reason for getting her involved at this stage was to take
a deep look at the developer and advise whether we should proceed with
the project and advance the initial deposit to him, which was all our
life’s savings at the time. Prior to this event, we did not have full
details of the developer’s background. Put differently, all I wanted
was for her to deploy her intuitive ability to determine the
genuineness and worth of the project and credibility of the developer
to avoid being duped.
Immediately we emerged from the meeting, and on our way to the car, my
wife revealed to me that the developer looked genuine and that she
foresees no danger with the deal. Based on her judgement and advice, I
called the developer next day and authorised full commencement of
work. The project was eventually delivered as scheduled. This is the
honour of the woman.
Psychically, the woman is the power house of the home, providing
spiritual direction for the family. Her commitment in this area is
driven more by protection for the family, specifically for the husband
and children than for any other consideration. While the man is
physically responsible for the protection of the family, the wife
focuses on the spiritual aspect, which is eternal and more precarious.
This explains her emotional disposition for the church and other
places of worship where she communes with God for the salvation and
protection of the family. The dominance of women at churches and in
every programme organised therein is an expression of their spiritual
commitment. This way, they stand in gap for the men who are too
overwhelmed by mundane things of the world, making them not as
spiritually responsive and endowed like the women.
These extra powers of the woman are known to have been deployed to
change direction of events. No matter how highly place a man is and in
what capacity he functions, when the woman steps in and offers her
advice, equilibrium is altered. Proof of this abounds in marital
homes, corporate environment and the larger society. From Europe to
North America; from Africa to South America; from Australia to Asia
and to Antarctica, the woman is a force with enormous influence, so,
with these natural gifts, why the fuss?
Even under veiled condition necessitating being unseen, quiet, unheard
and unnoticed, she operates with the hallowed candour of dominant
calm, and evidently, maintain a stoic presence anywhere in private or
public sphere. The woman may have her personal foibles, but these
imperfections dissolve into inconsequentiality when matched against
her aptitudes and demeanour.
History is replete with great men with rigid moral principles and
inelastic temperament occupying top positions in royalty, government,
corporation organisations or social cycle that have been brought down
from their high horse through the overbearing influence and power of
the woman. Put differently, men abound who succumbed to the fury fire
of women, losing all they had laboured for.
The dominant power of a woman is manifestly evident in every home.
This accounts for why visitors are more at ease whenever the woman is
not at home. You may notice that whenever the woman is at home, and
friends or relations visit, there is atmospheric presence that
enforces order and restrain excesses, just as her absence conjures
defiance to home etiquette and evokes flight of order.
With these exclusive privileges conferred on the woman by nature, what
else does she want? Why condescending from the height, position and
lane God has assigned to them and go into contest with the man on
matters of rights, authority, opportunities and influence. The man
cannot be like the woman, so too, the woman cannot be like the man, no
matter how hard both try. The physiologies of the man and the woman
are by divine arrangement diverse, hence are apportioned and endowed
differently in line with God’s thoughts.
Therefore, the woman is a gift from nature, and since God is not
researchable, nobody can establish why He made the personalities
different. So, woman, you are important in your natural role. Take
your rightful place and stop expending energies in a turf not in
consonance with your physiologies so that you can prosper. Life is not
all about positions, but about peace and happiness, which is the
ultimate essence of life.
The woman is an immeasurable value to mankind, and the average man
knows this, which also informs why she is handled with care. To
therefore begin to congregate under the auspices of World Conference
on Women to fight for the protection of women is an acknowledgement of
ignorance of the worth and role of the woman in natural orchestration.
It is unhelpful to believe that the perceived enemies who are
responsible for their oppression are obviously the men, thus must open
every channel to correct this imbalance by expending energies pursuing
causes and programmes that will engender justice. Unfortunately, the
men who these efforts are directed are their partners rather than
enemies who also recognise their strategic roles as help without whom,
their vision will dissipate into oblivion.
The man knows that the woman is crucial to his success, and so,
cherishes her company and presence, and anytime there is opportunity
to express and demonstrate this, the man does not hesitate. The number
of birthday parties held for the woman is a measurement of the premium
places on the woman by the man. Most men do not bother with birthday
celebrations, but ensure this is marked for their wives as part of
ways to show love for their wives and companions.
It is advised the man should continue to strive for excellence so that
his marriage can be preserved. The man can build confidence in the
woman through hard work, and once the woman is convinced she is in the
right union, it is likely she might not be distracted by unnecessary
ambition reinforced by feminism.
The woman is too critical to be ignored in a union, thus it is
unnecessary to impose and assert her will aimed at dominating the man.
It is an aberration to dominate the husband under the guise of
feminism. Woman, you are too important to be in discordant tones with
the man.
Owhoko, author of many books, writes this via thewillnigeria.com
